Dontbeacrumqueen

I started this podcast as the result of my own experience in a narcissistic abusive marriage, which I eventually left. My hope is that as you listen, you will gain a better understanding of what narcissistic abuse is and how to be an Overcomer, not just a survivor. It is my heart’s desire for every woman to know how valuable you are and how much you contribute to the goodness in this world. Don't ever accept crumbs. Live the Life you Deserve. Disclaimer: I am NOT a professional counselor and I do not have a degree in this area. I am simply someone who was able to find true hope after narcissistic abuse and wanted to share what has helped me personally.

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Finding Your Peace

December 21, 2025 • Sher • Episode 70

Today’s topic is Finding Your Peace. This is not about me telling you how to find it but rather me simply sharing some of my own experiences in MY search for Peace.

Whether they know it or not, there are so many people these days who are searching for Peace. That place of quiet Contentment where INSIDE it feels calm, regardless of what’s going on around you. In this day and age of busyness, it’s difficult to slow your pace and I get that. The demands of family or your work life can make it difficult to find the QUIET which allows you to sit with your thoughts.

Today’s topic is Finding Your Peace. This is not about me telling you how to find it but rather me simply sharing some of my own experiences in MY search for Peace.

While Peace feels elusive, it’s not. It is attainable BUT you have to work for it. By that I mean Peace and Healing are joined at the hip. You can’t have one without the other. Peace is an internal process, not an external one.

I know, I know. You’re sitting there thinking well I don’t have anything to Heal from, I’m fine! Well, if that were true, you’d have Peace, right?

Distraction is easy, Healing is not. It requires us to take a good, long look in the mirror with INTENT about seeing what is lingering beneath the surface and hiding in those dark crevices (which is usually denial) and then doing something about it. I speak from experience. I’ve done it and continue to do it today. Healing is not a once and done thing. It’s continual, just like our personal growth. Trust me it’s much easier to stay distracted so you don’t have to confront the Truth. The reality is if you don’t confront it, the same unresolved issues will keep showing up, regardless of how many relationships you cruise through or how many times you switch your job. You aren’t addressing the root of the problem. You are simply treating the symptoms through change.

I think we can all agree that Life isn’t always fair. We get hurt, disappointed, rejected, abandoned, you name it we have probably experienced it in some capacity. However, the ONE beautiful thing we have been granted is Free Will. We ALL have the ability to make choices. We can choose to REACT (unhealed) or RESPOND (healed) to what happens to us on our Journey. Each one of us gets to choose whether we would like to stay a victim or face our unhealed wounds and find Freedom.

I’m not going to lie, embarking on a Healing Journey to find your Peace is not an easy one but it will lead you to the Land of Contentment. It is here that no one can steal your Peace because it’s within you, not from an external source like a person, place or thing.

One thing that is of utmost importance to remember is that we alone are the Guardians of our heart and that means WE decide who or what has access to us. This will most likely cause you to establish healthy boundaries if you are involved in a toxic or negative relationship or other situation in your Life.

That doesn’t make you a bad person. It makes you a good Steward of your own physical, mental, emotional and Spiritual well-being. For those who were taking advantage of your wounds and benefiting from them, those people will most likely not react well to your boundaries. That’s OK. They also have the ability to make choices and if they choose not to change, well, then I guess that means they don’t get open access to you anymore.

I can honestly say that having Peace and Contentment in my Life is SO worth the pain of the experiences I’ve endured over the years. No one is coming to save you. No one is coming to offer you bubble wrap so you won’t get hurt anymore. If you allow the pain you’ve encountered on your Journey to do its transformative work within you, you can finally become the person you were called and Created to be.

No more shrinking. No more anxiety. Just beautiful, wonderful Peace that cannot be shaken.

I pray you find the Courage to want more, to be more, to embrace the Light within you that has always been waiting to Shine. Choose Healing which will lead you to Peace….you won’t be disappointed.